While it’s a nice feeling to love and be loved, there are reasons why you haven’t met the person who will bring such a beautiful chaos in your life and before you become bitter think of all these things first.
When You Think Every Guy You Meet Is “Your One”
Okay, so going to the movies alone may not be fun to you and you see your friends going in and out of relationship like a breeze so you’re thinking where is your perfect guy? You’re too caught up in the wanting part that you’re not really caring anymore if the guys you’re meeting are exactly who you want. Before you show to the world that you’ll just about take on any guy you see interested in you, breathe… it helps you know if you’re getting tensed about the “you need to meet someone so bad” part. Nothing good comes out when something is forced but something that’s meant to happen will always be magical; no chilling sensation or sirens ringing but you’ll definitely feel it when it’s right.
You Just Don’t Know It But You’re Not Really Ready
You think you’ve matured enough, you think you’re ready to settle down and give your whole world to him, you think that everything will always be a fairy tale; no fights, misunderstandings and all those things that make relationships nasty. What kind of relationship are you thinking of? Unless you’re a real life bohemian princess and you have a unicorn for pet, you’re just not ready. Being in a relationship takes a whole lot of work and if you’re someone who gives up so easily when things get rocky, then you’re not ready. When you change your mind all the time, then you’re not ready. When you only think of the good times you’ll be spending with someone and dismiss all the sticky situations, then you’re not ready.
When You Can’t Even Finish The Menial Things You’ve Started
You say you’re ready but how about the countless times you jumpstarted a project that has since been unfinished. Sure they all got potential and you were either really crafty or your ideas were great and at one point when it has begun, things were doing great but what now? Did you finish any of it? And how about the time when you brought home a puppy but the moment she was too hyperactive you forced your friend to adopt her? Maybe there was even a time when you had a fall out with your friend just because you were mad at her for not being on time on your last get together. The thing is not all people have reached some level of maturity and it will take time. But if you want something to happen then you’re gonna do something about it.
When You Don’t Really Know What You Want
Much like when you can’t finish the things you've started, knowing what you really want requires a certain level of maturity. Even in recent times when people are treating their relationships like they’re just changing underwear, it’s still cosmic to think that there is actually somebody who is truly meant for you. It doesn’t mean that you have to sit around all day waiting for him because you need to live your life too but you at least have to have lists of things you’re okay with about a particular guy or things you really can’t stand so yes bye bye to that guy. It’s important to know what you want not only in a guy but in your life basically. Say, you like travelling a lot; don’t be with a guy who’d rather stay at home because you’ll only get into a fight with him most of the time unless you too come up with a good compromise.
When You Let Outside Influences Change The Way You Think About Love
It’s so easy to be persuaded into thinking differently. For one, social media is a huge mind hypnotism lord that’s why there’s a huge growth in terms like catfishing, ghosting, breadcrumbing, stashing, etc. and people, mostly girls get so affected that they over think and over analyze every details, together with their friends with what’s truly going on with the guy and you. First, before you think about confusing terms and what your friends or family think, think about how you feel about love. Is this something you’re really into or something you like but just got so magnified because everyone you know keep on telling you to get hitched? Then if this is something you really want, does the guy want you back? Quite frankly, stop with the terms already. Stop with hot and cold treatment ‘coz they’re just beginning to get boring and draining the life out of you. Bottom line, if it’s meant to happen, it will and you don’t need to force it so for the meantime, live your life and be the best version of yourself.
Because Being Single Is Fun
One very bright person said once; Poor people worry about poor people problems while rich people worry about rich people problems. Same goes with relationships; Single people worry about single people problems and married people worry about married people problems. Just because someone is married or is in a relationship means that they are in heaven. On worst occasions, women are getting beaten up and left for younger women just because she’s spent years cooking, cleaning the house, preparing lunch, dinner and everything else for the whole family that she’s left with no time for herself while single women are crying to their friends asking what’s wrong with her because she can’t make her relationships last or she thought he was the one but he loves someone else. When you’re single, you can go wherever you please, do the things you love, be with the people you like without someone questioning you about your whereabouts. When you’re single, you can take care of yourself, do your work with all your best efforts because you’re not thinking about a fight the day before. There is no aching heart, no painful eyes because the tears that welled up so well last night and there are no second guessing yourself each time.
Because It’s Fun To Be Single
That’s not all, when you’re single you don’t have to give out a lot of time for someone who’s actually just there for the convenience, you don’t have wrinkles and you don’t have to get treatment for you stretch marks but you shape your brows well, you get a wax and you get a haircut not because you want to impress someone but only because you like pampering yourself. You let your creativity run free and you benefit from it because your work is not clouded with darkness coming from a failed relationship. Every day is light and you’re not getting into fights at 3 am in the morning because there isn’t anyone to fight with so this time you get to sleep soundly.
Okay so there really are no 50 million reasons, more like six. Just wanted to catch your attention, I hope I did. The thing is you’re not a smaller person just because you’re single; if you meet someone nice then go for it but if you haven’t meant your one yet, don’t feel bad about it either because there is so much more to life than that. You are so much more.
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